by Cathy Vartuli
Happy Almost Valentine’s Day! Whether you’re in a relationship or not, we wanted to send you something sweet to let you know how much we care. We have 3 gifts to offer you this year… and you deserve them!
Do you want more Romance in your life? We love Reid Mihalko’s practical and unexpected solutions to relationships. And Cathy added some tapping (with his permission) to his free ebook. We especially love how the 3 steps he shares can help you give and receive love in new, powerful ways. You can download it here and share it with friends and family, at no cost:
Finding My Heart’s Desire: We’ll be having a coaching call tomorrow (Saturday, February 9, 2013) at 2:30pm EST on attracting what you most desire in life. If you can’t make that time, visit afterwards and get the recording!
Tapping to Open Your Heart: It’s so easy to let your heart close. Hurts and slights, big and small, add up. And all those disappointments that wrench your heart and make you feel like it’s better to never reach out at all…
We build up walls and end up lonely and afraid rather than empowered and deeply loved.
That shutdown feeling can be especially intense around Valentine’s Day. There are so many expectations. Lots of “shoulds” about relationships and value. If you were a good girlfriend / wife / boyfriend / husband / lover you would do / get / give / feel _____.
Millions of dollars are spent on advertising diamond rings, fancy dinners, new cars, chocolate, and lingerie. According to ABC News the average person spends $126 on their partner — buying flowers, cards, and gifts. And last year, people spent $1.8 billion (with a B) on flowers.
It’s easy to feel hurt, neglected or unloved if you’re not part of the show… and even if you are. Whatever stories you have from your childhood can come up and smack you on the back of your head:
– I’m not lovable
– I’m not good enough
– I’ll never find love
– It won’t ever be good enough
What belief is coming up for you around love and Valentine’s? ____________________________
It can help a lot to ask yourself, “How old is this belief?”
When we think it’s all about here and now, the intensity can feel overwhelming, and we can feel trapped in the belief.
Most of us formed our beliefs before we were 6. What heartbreak or disappointment did you have back then? If you could release it, how would you be different in the world?
Karate Chop: Even though I have this belief… and I learned it long ago… I’ve come a long way, and it might be safe to release this now.
Even though I’ve been scared and shut down. I’m afraid to face this disappointment, it hurt so very much back then…I’m a lot stronger now, and maybe it’s safe to open my heart and love again.
Even though I can’t live up to the standards I see on TV…I didn’t get/give a diamond necklace and a new car… that isn’t real life and I don’t have to be that to be “lovable”!
Top of the Head: I want to feel as good as the actors on TV.
Eyebrow: I want to have the magic they have.
Side of the Eye: It hurts not to be a special as that.
Under the Eye: I want to know I deserve that!
Under the Nose: And when I don’t get it…
Chin: I feel inadequate and wrong.
Collarbone: My heart hurts.
Under the Arm: I want to cry.
Top of the Head: The truth is…
Eyebrow: They are just actors.
Side of the Eye: They have to give back the necklace…
Under the Eye: And the car.
Under the Nose: And they can’t even eat the chocolate.
Chin: Poor actors!
Collarbone: I want real love.
Under the Arm: And it’s safe to open up and allow it.
Top of the Head: I’ve been scared to allow that warmth.
Eyebrow: I didn’t want to let anyone close.
Side of the Eye: Then they’d see I didn’t measure up.
Under the Eye: But what if they want ME?
Under the Nose: Just as I am?
Chin: And not some model.
Collarbone: I can release my fears…
Under the Arm: And open my heart.
Top of the Head: It’s time to create my own magic… and lots of love.
Take a deep breath.
The more we practice being open and loving, the easier it gets. Practice with your family and friends, and find others who want to create that, too. That’s one of the reasons we love our group coaching program so much… the deep love and connection we all find there. Please join us!
And if you enjoy Reid’s ebook, check out the EFT audio coaching programs Rick and Cathy created with him:
Breaking Out of Your Shell
Creating Connection: Finding and Deepening Love, Passion, and Playfulness in Relationships
Taming the 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy
P.S. Happy Valentine’s Day! Feel free to spread these gifts with others and to share the love with our tribe out on Facebook: