I was wondering if you could help me. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed about my weight. I don’t like going out. I have over 100 lbs to lose. My husband loves to share his humiliation about how I look. For a long time, I believed all the negative and hurtful things he said about me and other “fat people”. Now I want to love and accept myself just as I am. I have started eating better, but all the negative talk in my head and my home makes it hard to value me. — Michelle

We’re sorry your husband shares his “humiliation” about your weight. It is common for people to pick a “scape goat” and blame everything that’s wrong with their lives on that aspect of themselves or someone close to them. A lot of people believe that everything would be perfect if they were at their perfect weight.

Have you ever called your husband on this? Asked him to stop? Sometimes we don’t even realize what we’re doing!  Does he tap at all? Have you tapped on your self-blame and your own attitudes toward “fat” people?

Our society often insists that weight is bad, evil, lazy, slovenly, ugly… just down right unacceptable. Some people treat it like leprosy. Weight is the current, socially acceptable prejudice.

It’s wonderful when our bodies are healthy, vital, and fit. It feels good to be strong and flexible and able to move easily. But our culture attaches all kinds of judgements on those who carry extra fat cells. When we’ve internalized that blame and shame, the stress and feelings of being unacceptable can actually hold the weight in place. And having it reinforced by someone we love can hurt!

Think of it like this. Our primitive brains (the part that has first control over many of the hormones and other chemicals that allow our bodies to function) evolved when there were two main threats to life:

1) Something might eat you. This threat required you be able to move as quickly as you could to run away. Fit, slender people tend to have an advantage here. At least you could outrun some of your friends! <wink>

2) Starvation. Big threat back then. This required that your body conserve every ounce of energy it could. It meant reducing your activity to the minimum possible (no fidgeting, no pacing, or casual walks). It meant consuming the most calories possible, as much as possible as quickly as possible. The plump people had a better chance of surviving the famine.

Our primitive brain tries to balance the two threats. It can and does control the inclination to be sedentary or active, to eat high calorie foods or less food. It can make the idea of working out or moving seem very heavy or impossible, or it can make it seem like if you sit still another minute, you’ll go crazy.

If you were constantly threatened by wild animals, but there was consistently plenty to eat, your primitive brain would opt for lots of activity and not much stored energy (fat).

If there was constant threat of famine, but few wild animals or enemy tribes, it will want to store as much reserve as possible.

In our modern society, there is often a LOT of stress. Including judgement, blame, and humiliation from those around us and within our own minds. Many of us are overwhelmed and exhausted. We don’t feel safe and calm much of the time. Add to that the stored traumas and pain many of us carry, and the feeling of unsafety is quite strong… at least at a subconscious level.

Our primitive brain sees the stress and tries to decide is this a) a physical threat I need to run from or b) a starvation threat I need to conserve energy for. Since we’re not running around or being attacked, it tends to opt for choice b… and it helps us get fat

Your brain is doing it’s best to love you and protect you. Because it thinks there’s a threat, it slows your metabolism. It tries to get you to sleep and rest more so you burn fewer calories. It makes us crave the richest foods we can find (Ever binge on lettuce and celery when you were stressed? Most people reach for carbs and fats and sugars instead!). And your brain sends chemicals to your body, telling it to store as much of that energy as fat as it can.

When we resent the weight and pile on judgement and humiliation and blame, we feel even more stressed. We feel less safe and more overwhelmed. And we wonder why it’s hard to release extra weight and be more fit and slender!

The first thing we do with people who want to be more slender is tap on the resentment and blame they feel towards themselves. If we can start seeing the weight as a safety mechanism rather than a large, visible sign of our own inadequacy, we reduce the stress we feel. As we start appreciating some things about ourselves, we feel lighter. And that acceptance and love open the door to more movement and more loving choices about what we eat… without the need to FIGHT our primitive brain the whole way.

In this tapping script, we’ve purposely included some strong statements. Even if you don’t agree with them completely, it may help to say them. Exaggerated statements can help bring clarity (our brain says, “no, not that but ____”) and they may help you find some subconscious beliefs that are very strong that you might miss otherwise. Tapping helps us find the truth.

Karate Chop: Even though they say fat is bad, and my spouse agrees… in fact I often agree, too… I’m open to seeing my body in a different, more loving way.

Even though I’m afraid to see this extra weight in anything but the worst light, I might gain more… I am so tired of feeling ashamed and unacceptable… and I would like to love myself more.

Even though I think this extra weight is to blame for all my insecurities and pain, it might actually be there to help me feel safe. I can tap on the causes of the hurt I feel, and try thanking and appreciating my body instead. I bet that would help me feel safer and more loved.

Top of the Head: Fat is BAD.
Eyebrow: Fat people are lazy…
Side of the Eye: And shameful.
Under the Eye: They should never leave the house.
Under the Nose: I am so ashamed of my fat.
Chin: I think it shows the world how insecure I feel.
Collarbone: How unacceptable I am.
Under the Arm: I blame my weight for all the pain I feel.

Top of the Head: I’ve felt like my body is fighting me.
Eyebrow: Trying to punish me.
Side of the Eye: I’ve been calling it all kinds of bad names.
Under the Eye: My partner has, too.
Under the Nose: Why do I put up with that?
Chin: Why don’t I tell him to shut up?
Collarbone: What if I started telling myself a new story?
Under the Arm: What if I worked with my body instead of fighting it?

Top of the Head: He is ashamed of me.
Eyebrow: That’s his business.
Side of the Eye: I am ashamed of me.
Under the Eye: That’s MY business.
Under the Nose: I thought my body was bad.
Chin: It felt like it was trying to hurt me.
Collarbone: What if it’s just trying to protect me the best way it knows how?
Under the Arm: I could try tapping WITH it…
Top of the Head: Appreciating it, and finding a new way to work WITH it now.

Take a deep breath.

How does this feel to your body? Does it like the idea of working with you rather than being forced to behave?

The primitive brain is one part of the picture. There may be strong limiting beliefs stored in the thinking brain as well from traumas or learned from parents among other things. For instance, your subconscious may have decided that being overweight was a great way to protect yourself from situations that are frightening. Tapping on those limiting beliefs is a great way to get your whole being in alignment with being slender and fit.

In our Group Coaching Program we deal with these issues all the time. We even have a body image study group. If it sounds like a good fit to you, you’d be welcome.

Transform Your Emotions with Energy Tapping (EFT)

We respect your privacy.

Free video presentation… see below!

Would you ask a 3-year-old what house to buy? Do you ask a 5-year-old who to date? If you have unresolved traumas from when you were 3- or 5-years-old, these frozen memories may have more impact on these adult decisions than you might think. You can find out what might be blocking you by watching this 14-minute video…

Most people think of “trauma” as nasty car accidents, muggings, child abuse, and war. But to a 3-year-old, Mommy suddenly “disappearing” because of a new job can be traumatic if the child feels rejected or abandoned.

Being ridiculed at Show-and-Tell can affect how we hold ourselves in public, sometimes for the rest of our lives… if we don’t release the frozen pain of that experience.

“Small” traumas can affect our self-worth, our sense of safety, how much love we allow in, and how abundant we feel.

Traumas change our vibration… often below the level of consciousness (and thus, by the Law of Attraction, they affect what we draw into our life.)

Why is that? What is going on and how do we change this?

We have put together a video sharing how big and little traumas are held in the body and mind, and how we can release them.

If you cannot watch the video due to a slow internet connection, here is a PDF Document of the presentation and a MP3 Audio File.

Next, let’s talk about how to use Inner Tapping to help. (Click link for the companion video.)

Links in the presentation:
- Introduction to Energy Tapping (EFT)
- Grounding Exercises
- Inner Tapping (companion video)
- Thriving Now Team – Group Coaching Program

Listen (07:14) or Download MP3

We often ask people what they feel needs to change so they can feel free…

About 50% of them include weight loss, being slender or thin, in their answer. But unless you change the emotions, you can lose all the weight you want and still be just as stuck and unhappy as you are now… whatever your weight is.

Yes, a lot of excess weight can pose a problem physically — it can be hard to get around and fit into restaurant chairs and airplane seats, but the emotional baggage is important, too.

A lot of times we blame our weight for everything that’s wrong in our lives. We think we’ll be happy and free if ONLY we were thin. But we’re creating a fantasy person.

Even if someone loses 100lbs, they will still sometimes have bad breath and bad hair days. They will still be grouchy and tired sometimes. They still hurt at times.

A lot of people have created this fantasy that being slender will fix all their problems. Is that true for you? You can test to see…

Imagine you are as slender and fit as you dream you could be. Get as tuned into that picture as you can. See if you can “visualize” the sounds, smells, and physical feeling of being “her” or “him”. You may want to close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Looking at her… do you envision someone who is completely confident and carefree? Someone who doesn’t get her heart broken or lose her car keys in the morning? If so, you have created a story that isn’t true.

And the really cool thing is, you can work on feeling confident and carefree, no matter if you’re losing weight or not! In fact, for a lot of people, it is the releasing of the blocks to self-confidence and happiness that finally allows them to naturally move to a more pleasing weight…not the other way around.

The fantasy we create is really attractive. It’s easier to blame the weight for our unhappiness (and our society does place a lot of blame and judgement on weight) than to dig into our subconscious and find and release the blocks that are holding us in place. The problem is, if we don’t release those blocks, we can force our bodies to a size 2 and still be radically miserable! And as soon as we stop forcing and dieting, our body will rebound… and then some. Hence yo-yo dieting.

If you can build a connection with your body and learn to love it, you can be happy and fulfilled NOW and as you lose weight and when you’ve lost the weight.

And you won’t have to fight your body to do it. You’ll naturally flow there.

Freedom isn’t numbers on a scale or on the label inside your pants. It’s a state of being.

If this makes sense to you, try tapping on this:

Karate Chop: Even though I thought I had to lose weight to be free and loved, I’m choosing to feel loved and find my freedom NOW, no matter what my weight is.

Even though I thought I had to lose weight to reclaim my body and my life, I choose to reclaim it NOW and love my body into health rather than forcing it.

Even though I’ve felt trapped, and I blamed the weight, I can tap and release the blame and the blocks that have been keeping me stuck. I choose freedom and delight NOW.

Top of the Head: I thought I had to wait.
Eyebrow: I had to be thin… FIRST.
Side of the Eye: Then I would be free.
Under the Eye: Then I would be lovable.
Under the Nose: What if I’m lovable NOW?
Chin: Why do I need to wait?
Collarbone: I’m tired of being stuck.
Under the Arm: I want to feel free and loved.

Top of the Head: I don’t feel free.
Eyebrow: But maybe it’s not about the weight.
Side of the Eye: I know there are some fears tucked away…
Under the Eye: And the weight protects me from facing them.
Under the Nose: What if I gathered my courage…
Chin: And got some loving support,
Collarbone: And faced those fears now?
Under the Arm: I would feel freer!

Top of the Head: I’ve been blaming the weight.
Eyebrow: But it’s just there to protect me.
Side of the Eye: When I don’t need all that insulation…
Under the Eye: My body can release the weight easily.
Under the Nose: I choose to release those fears.
Chin: I choose to reclaim my freedom.
Collarbone: I’m going to start loving me today.
Under the Arm: I can love myself now…
Top of the Head: And enjoy my freedom as I lose this weight.

Take a deep breath.

How does this feel? What came up for you?

Our Group Coaching Program is a great place to get support and guidance reclaiming your freedom and transforming your fears. We welcome you and look forward to working with you as you transform your beliefs and become the confident, happy being you’ve always dreamed of!

I have these intense cravings for sugar and sweets, and I want to eat healthier foods. How can I change my behavior? -Linda

First, if you want to reduce your sugar cravings to help with weight loss, remember that a lot of weight issues are related to safety. Cravings won’t shift unless you feel safe shifting them. So… If you imagine yourself even a few pounds lighter, does your body feel relaxed and open or tight and resistant? If it feels resistant, can you ask it why? What is it afraid of? Tapping to release those fears and limiting beliefs can allow you to naturally crave healthier foods.

Next, if you’re craving a lot of sugar, what is the emotional experience you’re reaching for? Does eating sugar make you feel special? Indulged? Does it give you relief?

We learn to associate certain foods with comfort from a young age. How did your family treat sweets? What rules and memories do you have around them?

Sometimes we crave sweets when we feel like life isn’t sweet. Are you allowing yourself to feel loved and appreciated? Do you take time to enjoy life? If it doesn’t feel safe to allow good feelings like that, why? You can tap and release those blocks and allow life to be much sweeter!

And craving candy or other junk food may come from a sense of rebelliousness. Did someone punish you by not giving you candy? Where you not allowed to enjoy it when you were little? You could be making up for it now, over and over again. What if you allowed yourself to REALLY enjoy eating one piece of chocolate? If you were mindful and present, one piece might be enough. How would that feel?

You might try tapping with this script… and just see what comes up.

Karate Chop: Even though I crave sweets, and I do enjoy the taste of sugar, I’m open to allowing sweetness in my life… in lots of different ways.

Even though I’m eating more sweets than I want, some part of me is craving them. I’m open to clarity so we can tap on any blocks… and enjoy a balanced and fun relationship with food.

Even though the sweets remind me of good times and feeling special, I’m open to allowing those feelings all the time… not just when I eat sugar.

Top of the Head: I crave sugar.
Eyebrow: Part of me is looking for good feelings.
Side of the Eye: I want life to feel sweet!
Under the Eye: I want to feel special!
Under the Nose: What if I could feel that way…
Chin: Whether I ate sugar or not?
Collarbone: I want freedom from this compulsion.
Under the Arm: I want to enjoy life like I enjoy candy.

Top of the Head: What stops me from relaxing…
Eyebrow: And letting love in?
Side of the Eye: What does eating sugar give me?
Under the Eye: What does it remind me of?
Under the Nose: I invite those good feelings.
Chin: I thought I had to have sugar to enjoy them.
Collarbone: Maybe I don’t.
Under the Arm: I’m open to finding new ways to feel good.

Top of the Head: I thought I had to eat a lot to feel special.
Eyebrow: But there are lots of ways to feel loved.
Side of the Eye: I might eat one delicious piece.
Under the Eye: And really enjoy it!
Under the Nose: Or I might ask a friend for a hug.
Chin: I could let the sunshine warm me…
Collarbone: And know I am loved.
Under the Arm: I invite the Universe to bring me clarity…
Top of the Head: And lots of sweetness, every day.

Take a deep breath.

How does that feel? What came up around that? There are several possible reasons you could crave sugar (or anything else for that matter). Which of them resonate with you?

If you want help working through those issues, our group coaching program is a great way to get support and to connect with others who want freedom and a delicious life. We have many calls each month where it is perfect for you to get help clearing patterns like sugar cravings using EFT with us. You can find out more here:

http://www.thrivingnow.com/team

We hope this helps!

On Sale $47 – Reg. price $67 (includes 147-pages and 5+ hours of coaching & tapping audios)

Are you stuck?

When you’re stuck, the frustration builds. You feel angry and hopeless… like you will NEVER get what you WANT!!! No matter what you try, you just can’t get any traction. You’re grumpy and lose your enthusiasm for life and normal activities. It’s harder to connect with people you love, and it’s difficult to enjoy life. You can start feeling like a failure.

So you try to smash through… grit your teeth and beat yourself up… bribe yourself… just to get a little movement. And sure, willpower can win out for awhile, but it is a constant fight. Exhausting. And once we are tired out, we’ll find ourselves back where we were. Stuck in the same ol’… sh-tuff.

The good news is that change will start happening again… if you put your efforts in the right place. Instead of spinning your wheels, you can start making changes that will transform your life.

Knowing where and how to target your efforts is the key!

Why haven’t you figured it out on your own? You’ve certainly tried hard enough! The reasons you are stuck are hidden in your subconscious and under a blanket of denial… and will stay hidden until you ask 3 key questions that help you uncover your blocks.

There are certain major blocks humans run into over and over again. Yet, most people aren’t even aware of them on a conscious level.

Until we address them, we may want to move forward with all our might. We can try and try until we’re exhausted. We may want it so bad that it hurts, but these subconscious belief and fears hold us back, and can actually make us sabotage all our efforts! Once they’re removed, you will find yourself moving forward with grace and ease.

Those blocks cause habitual thoughts that are energetically incompatible with success! So we stay who and where we are. STUCK!

In this package, Rick and Cathy teach you what these blocks are and help you identify which ones are affecting you right now. They’ll guide you through each of the three questions and help you identify the specific events that created your personal blocks. And they’ll show you ways to shift them in a gentle and complete way by using Tapping (EFT) to release them.

Instead of struggling forward with all the brakes on, let your energy move you forward and achieve your dreams!

Purchase your copy today!

On Sale $47 – Reg. price $67 (includes 147-pages and 5+ hours of coaching & tapping audios)
30-Day Money Back Guarantee

We know from personal experience how invaluable a helping hand can be when you are dealing with these kinds of issues. We have a group coaching program that is structured to provide such support.

Learn More about the Thriving Now Team Group Coaching Program

We also offer private sessions (limited availability).

One of the clearly missing links in any discussion or plan for weight loss is… safety. If we do not feel safe being slender, fit, and sexually more attractive… we WILL NOT. Our primitive brain will kick in and have us drop out of a successful program, binge, self-sabotage… ANYTHING to return to the safety of being obese. This makes total sense if one understand the role of undischarged trauma and how it affects our biology and behavior.

How Childhood Trauma Can Cause Adult Obesity

By Maia Szalavitz

Dr. Vincent Felitti, founder of Kaiser Permanente’s Department of Preventive Medicine and director of its obesity-treatment program, was seeing some good results. His patients were losing 50, 80, even hundreds of pounds. He might have considered the program a success, if not for the fact that the participants who were doing the best — those who were both the most obese and losing the most weight — kept dropping out.

Felitti was baffled. Why, invariably, did so many patients quit just as they approached their healthy goal weight? Ella, for instance, a middle-aged woman who entered the program in the mid-1980s morbidly obese at 295 lb., had managed to whittle her frame by 150 lb. over six months. “Instead of being happy, she was having anxiety attacks and was terrified,” Felitti says.

He asked Ella what she thought was going on. “Finally, the story comes out,” he says. “She had been molested as a child, both within her family and outside it. She tried to escape by marrying at 15, at her mother’s urging. It was a disastrous marriage — her husband was crazy jealous. They divorced in two years. She remarried. Her new husband was also jealous. He was convinced that when she was out hanging the laundry, she was sexually posturing to attract the neighbors.”

When Ella was overweight, Felitti learned, her husband was less suspicious. And her fear of his rage — perhaps he saw her new slimmer weight as a provocation? — was probably spurring her anxiety.

Right here we see in Ella a common example. There were traumas in her past as well as emotionally unsafe people (her husband) in her current world. In this situation, losing weight is NOT healthy!

… Discoveries by Felitti and colleagues have also helped give rise to broader work linking stressful experiences early in life — as early as in the womb — to effects on health and behavior later on, such as an increased risk of heart disease or becoming addicted to drugs. Scientists are finding that such effects are not only long-lasting, but can even be inherited by future generations.

… When Felitti first presented his Kaiser Permanente data connecting obesity with child molestation at a national meeting on obesity in 1990, most colleagues dismissed him immediately (one even claimed that obese people made up such stories to justify their “failed lives”). …

For the past several decades, the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) study has recorded reports of negative childhood experiences in more than 17,000 patients. Adverse experiences include ongoing child neglect, living with one or no biological parent, having a mentally ill, incarcerated or drug-addicted parent, witnessing domestic violence, and sexual, physical or emotional abuse. The researchers then searched for correlations between these experiences and adult health and the risk of disease.

The connections became clear: compared with a person with no adverse childhood experiences, or ACEs, a person with four or more has almost double the risk of obesity. Having four or more ACEs more than doubles the risk of heart attack and stroke, and nearly quadruples the risk of emphysema. The risk for depression is more than quadrupled. Although many of these outcomes could reflect the influences of genes and other environmental influences — beyond those occurring in childhood — the tight relationship between increasing ACE numbers and increasing health risks makes the role of child trauma clear. [via Time.com]

The ACE Study has made an important contribution to our understanding of the effects of childhood trauma on chronic health conditions like obsity, heart disease, depression, and more. If you have been suffering with such a condition and you were exposed to traumatic experiences as a child, you may want to explore this further by reviewing the presentations in our Trauma Relief Center.

On sale $37 – Reg. price $47 (includes 114-page e-book and 4.5 hours of coaching & tapping audios)

Self-Sabotage: Removing Your Sub-Conscious Blocks (PDF with full transcripts)

Tired of getting in your own way? Want to uncover some of the blocks and fears that are creating conflicts and sabotaging your efforts? This package targets some of the main blocks to self-fulfillment of any kind.

Look at the ways you sabotage yourself and why, understand key reasons people procrastinate and tap them away, look at ways you might subconsciously think you deserve to suffer (and change the beliefs!), and ease internal conflicts that keep you locked in place.

Includes: 4 Coaching & Tapping sessions (MP3 downloads with PDF transcripts):

I Always Sabotage Myself (MP3)

We’ve all gotten in our own way. We feel motivated… excited about moving forward. We have a clear goal in mind. We may even get close, when… WHAM! We do something that puts us back where we started… a bit bruised and feeling defeated. Use this EFT audio to effectively clear the subconscious blocks to feeling safe moving forward with ease.

Self-sabotage is NOT deliberate… It is NOT something you plan out in advance as a calculated strike on your own well-being. It arises from sub-conscious blocks and fears and past experiences (as well as basic human “self-preservation at all costs”). You know these blocks exist when you feel the pain of energetic conflict within you. You start to understand that there is some energy blocking you from experiencing what you desire: in love, in business and finances, in physical well-being.

Procrastination (MP3)

Most of us do this at one time or another. Understanding why and tapping on the blocks we have to moving forward can change our whole viewpoint. Some of the issues addressed in this call include:
- Fear/Deserving/Identity
- Boundaries
- Inner Guidance
- Old Associations
- Ripeness and Babysteps
- Not speaking up for self
- They’ll just as for more, and I’ll have to do it over again anyway

I Deserve to be Punished (MP3)

If we believe we deserved to be punished, our vibration isn’t very high and we may end up creating situations where this happens over and over. By going back and tapping on the reasons we believe this, we can change our energy and create new openings for abundance and joy.
- I deserve to be punished.
- I really did a bad thing.
- Is it a crime to resist punishment?
- Feeling angry (isn’t wrong to be angry?).
- Was I being punished?
- Self forgiveness.

These Internal Conflicts (MP3)

Internal conflicts can tie up a lot of our energy as we fight with ourselves over the right and safe direction to move in. Addressing the root causes of the conflicts can give us new clarity and direction.
- Afraid to celebrate financial abundance
- I want to be liked
- I want to lose weight, but I don’t want to diet
- I want to move forward, but feel like I need permission
- How can I accept myself with all these issues?
- Fighting myself to eat more healthy

On sale $37 - Reg. price $47 (includes 114-page e-book and 4.5 hours of coaching & tapping audios)
30-Day Money Back Guarantee

We know from personal experience how invaluable a helping hand can be when you are dealing with these kinds of issues. We have a group coaching program that is structured to provide such support.

Learn More about the Thriving Now Team Group Coaching Program

We also offer private sessions (limited availability).

$9.95 (Audio MP3)

What are family rules? They are the generational “laws of the universe” as your family understood them. There may be other levels of rules, but these are the ones we consider the most insidious because they are often unconscious and powerfully impact our lives. Changing these beliefs requires making them conscious… and then using energy tapping (EFT) to release their steadfast hold on our subconscious actions.

- Passed down for generations and seem as solid as the “law” of gravity.

- Great-great-great-great-grandma Josephine believed that life was hard and involved suffering and struggle. As a dynamic person, she convinced all those around her. Even many generations later, we grew up in a “marinade” of this belief. And we attract and focus in such a way that we prove her right over and over again. (law of attraction at work).

Circumstantial Rules and Childish (mis)-interpretations
- Often a 3 year old will make a decision about something and hold onto it “forever” unless is made conscious and shifted energetically.
- If mother was overwhelmed and tired a lot, the child may have interpreted that to mean “I am a lot of work. I am difficult.”
- If she preferred quiet people and criticized noise, the child can figure out “I must be quiet or people will judge me”.
- If the child’s having fun, and independently the father goes into a drunken rage, the child may decide that play equals pain.

Family rules limit us.
Family rules are what was decided in the past, they are not guidance for today.
They can block abundance and joy in our lives.

Families have all kinds of unspoken rules.
- This is the normal and natural way people in society interact.
- It helps the group function in a more efficient manner.
- But how many of those rules are unexamined and have no purpose?
- How many have been handed down for generations and no longer apply?
- People often use guilt to reinforce these rules, and you can tell you’ve hit one when you feel guilt or shame for what you “should” or “shouldn’t” have done.

We suspect that some of the rules we live by are extremely out of date, or might have been misinterpreted when we were small.
- When confronted about a rule they may say, “we never meant that!” Because it was either misunderstood or not conscious, only energetic.
- Example: a small child is playing with his toys and runs over his dad’s foot with a toy truck. The dad, half in exasperation, half joking says, ‘you are a pain in the butt’. The boy internalizes that “rule” and knows he is a pain in the butt for the rest of his life. He carries it with him and sees everything through those “glasses.” He may find it harder to get close to people or ask for help, because of a casual comment.

We often follow family rules because we think it’s the cost of safety, acceptance, and love.
- Not following the rules causes disturbance in most families.
- Even “violating” an unhelpful, painful rule can cause others to be afraid. Especially if they think you must follow the rule to be safe

From a viewpoint of lack, our family (or we might have interpreted it this way) may have decided that you can’t have everything…
- So one daughter can be the smart one, one can be popular, and one can have more money. It has be parceled out fairly.
- If one tries to have abundance in other aspects, she may be seen as selfish, greedy, depriving her siblings.

People pass on what they honestly believed is true.

What are the family rules that hold you back?
- “It’s hard for us to lose weight.”
- “It’s in the genes.”
- “We just don’t do well in business.”
- “Our family is susceptible to illness.”
- “Our family is just not happy or lucky, that’s for other people.”
- “We’re just not good looking.”
- “We have to work hard for everything we get.”

If we can remember the specific incident when we learned the rule, we can go back and tap on it.
Sometimes we’re not sure, we just seemed to absorb it from the air around us, doing EFT on the belief can help us see it from a new perspective.

Some family rules are wonderful and supportive.
- Some outdated and limiting.
- You have the freedom to choose which ones you follow and which ones you can toss out and start fresh.

This audio also includes Energy Tapping (EFT) on:
-  Can’t challenge Mom.
-  Girls aren’t important.
-  No one can succeed in our family

$9.95 (Audio MP3)
30-Day Money Back Guarantee

$9.95 (Audio MP3)

We sometimes know very clearly what we want (our goal), see other people getting it, and we’re NOT. Why??? In this audio recording we address the limiting beliefs around deserving… deserving health, wealth, happiness.

Deserve: to be worthy, fit, or suitable for some reward.
Want: to desire; wish or long for.

I don’t deserve to get what I want.
I am not worthy of what I desire.
I am not fit to have what I wish for.

Even if there is abundance in many areas of our lives, most of us have some aspect in our lives that just doesn’t flow.
- Whether it is losing weight,
- finding a romantic partner,
- healing a part of our body, or
- improving our finances…
…We have tried and tried, and not shifted it.

Incredibly frustrating! Sometimes we think we must not deserve it.

Why do people believe that?
- They haven’t ever gotten it — isn’t that proof?
- They feel they haven’t earned it.
- They are convinced they will lose something else if they get it.
- They were told they were selfish or spoiled.
- They feel guilty.

Where did you learn that you didn’t deserve whatever your goal is?
- Is it around this current experience?
- Did you learn it as a child?
- Did your parents or teachers show you this limiting belief?

Who or what showed you that you were unworthy of what you want?
- Does it feel safe to have it?
- If you imagine having your goal, not the daydreams, but in real life, does it feel safe?
- What fears come up?

Most goals are blocked by 1) fears and/or 2) limiting beliefs.

For example, for weight loss, some fears might be:
- Men might like me… and then what?!?!
- I won’t have the excuse of being too heavy/tired to avoid physical activities.
- What if nothing is better?

Some limiting beliefs might be:
- My sister will be jealous and I can’t hurt her.
- People won’t take me as serious intellectually
- It’s really hard to lose weight, maybe I’m not strong enough.

We sometimes know very clearly what we want, we see other people getting it, and yet, we don’t.
- WHY!?!?!
- What is WRONG with ME?
- Feelings of hurt and jealousy are often involved.

It would generally not be as painful if no one else got it either.
- For instance, it would be really cool to be able to walk on water.
- To cross rivers and streams without getting our feet wet, to park in a puddle and not have wet feet all day at work.
- As we imagine it, it feels kind of fun, but I suspect there is not a tearing pain because we can’t.
- Rate the intensity of the pain from 0-10.

Now imagine that LOTS of people can walk on water.
- In fact, it is considered “normal”.
- Those who can’t are viewed with pity, and sometimes scorn.
- And you can’t do it. You have tried.
- You took classes, you’ve been to doctors, you’ve read everything you could find on the subject, and you practiced and practiced.
- And you still can’t walk on water.
- Notice the heaviness in your body?
- Imagine needing to park your car, and the only place is in the middle of a deep puddle.
- Everyone else you see is getting out and strolling across the water happy as can be.
- And you know when you get out, you’ll sink with a large splash!
- Everyone will see you walking through the water, shoes sopping wet.
- Now notice how intense the pain might be when you think about not being able to walk on water…

A lot of suffering comes from comparing ourselves to others.
- And typically, over-acheivers that we are, we compare ourselves to outstanding individuals.
- If we view ourselves as overweight, and look around to see how we “should” be, we don’t look at the average person.
- We tend to look at the size 2 athlete.
- If we are in pain, we look around and compare ourselves to the thriving, yoga instructor.
- That is not to say we can’t reach for that or acheive whatever goals we might want, but that view point is more often used to show ourselves how “wrong” we are, rather than to inspire ourselves.

It might be hard to imagine, and you may feel some resistance, but it’s worth a try…(and why is there resistance??)
- Imagine that how you are (whatever your “block” is, pain, weight, confidence, money), is normal, expected and the goal.
- If you are in pain, think of a place where everyone is in that level of pain.
- It is normal. People function as best they can, accepting the pain as it is.
- Does some of the suffering go away?
- If everyone were 40lbs above their “ideal” weight, and that was considered attractive, would the 40lbs extra you carry be as heavy?
- It might feel good! You might feel sexy and more energetic…

You might let yourself love you a little more?!

$9.95 (Audio MP3)
30-Day Money Back Guarantee

$9.95 (Audio MP3)

We all eat mindlessly sometimes, but when was the last time you savored something you ate? Really connected with the joy and texture and flavor of the food? When we eat without savoring the experience, we miss out, and since we’re not satisfying the pleasure centers of our brains or bodies, we almost certainly eat more than we need or want. In this audio tapping session, we explore the blocks to mindful eating and take you through exercises designed to help you reconnect with that pleasure and joy. Energy Tapping rounds on resistance and reinforcing the positive make this a powerful recording for anyone wanting to change their relationship with food.

- What is Mindless eating (driving in the care, eating in front of the tv, bag of chips while working)
- What do we mean by mindful

Fears to Tap On
- If I appreciate food, I will eat more. I won’t be able to control myself.
- Guilt and shame, I shouldn’t be eating ANYTHING until I’m at the ideal weight.
- Is it safe to enjoy food? People will judge me if the see me enjoying eating.
- Do I deserve it?

- From food we derive energetic nurishment as well as vitamins, minerals, and calories

A Food You Want to Really Enjoy
- Look at it and smell it, appreciate the journey took to make this.
- Notice how it feels on lips, teeth and tongue.
- With the intent of enjoying it, texture, flavor, smell, colors, etc.
- Notice what blocks come up.

Positive tapping on allowing/remembering to allow pleasure in, give my body permission to enjoy this even more…

Additional Thoughts on Mindful Eating

There are several aspects to food that are important to us as humans:

1) Fuel
2) Enjoyment and satisfaction
3) Social interaction

1) Food for fuel is about taking in no more calories than the body needs, and if trying to lose weight, moderating our intake AND eating from a place of “all is well” rather than from stress. When we overeat, it is as “unhelpful” as filling the gas tank on the car and then opening up the trunk and filling it with gas, too!

2) Enjoyment and satisfaction can be radically (!!!!!!!!) increased by a process called Mindful Eating.

• Focus on the Joy of Eating only.
• Just focus on eating rather than on eating while focused on something else (reading, watching TV, driving, working).
• Pray and consider with gratitude all the people, insects, and plants and technology that went into bringing this food to you.
• Eat a bite, and really savor it. Taste it fully. Chew. Notice the textures.
• Make happy noises! Mmmmmm! Oh God, that tastes so incredibly sweet! I love it! Thank you!! Amplify the joy of eating, while eating “the perfect amount.”
• Take a breath between bites. And smile! It is great to be alive and eating delicious food!
• Take a small sip of water between different foods.
• Eat until you feel satisfied, but make the process slow and delicious. DELICIOUS!
• Practice by eating one raisin or one slice of orange or banana. Or one piece of chocolate.
• Make it a moving, eating meditation. Mantra: “There is enough. I am enough! I deserve to fully taste the sweetness of this food and of all of life, right now and always.”

Unless you are allergic/sensitive to some foods, we believe you can eat whatever you want if you are mindful and really listen to your body as it eats. It will tell you, “Enough!” But it won’t tell you if you are not listening, if your mind and attention are elsewhere, and if you are not taking emotional pleasure and gratitude and sweetness from the sensual pleasures of the ACT of eating.

3) Social interaction used to be a benefit of the way that people ate. We joined together as a tribe to enjoy the fruits of the forest and of the hunt. We often danced before and after, and felt connection and honored the earth spirits that brought us the abundance.

How far we’ve strayed from those rituals! If you feel “unsatisfied” after a big meal, ask yourself, “What do I feel is lacking here?” Is it connection? Is it sweetness? Is it contentment? Regardless of what it is, you can experience it both through food and through other means. Take what you still crave after mindfully enjoying enough “fuel” and consider how else those energies can be healthily brought into your life.

$9.95 (Audio MP3)
30-Day Money Back Guarantee

$9.95 (Audio MP3)

“I’ve tried everything! Why would this time be different?” Or, “I don’t want to try and fail again. It hurts too much!” If these sound familiar, listen and tap along with us as we shift this stubborn limiting belief so you can move more easily towards your optimal, healthy weight.

This is the outline for the call I Will Never Lose This Weight, with co-hosts Rick Wilkes and Cathy Vartuli.

Even if we have shifted a lot of old beliefs, this one may be pretty ingrained, blocking our movement forward.

- I have tried everything, why would this time be different?
- I don’t want to hope and fail again. I feel stupid and it hurts.
- If I don’t try, maybe people will think I don’t care. That’s better than them knowing I’m a failure. That I have no control.
- Have to be deprived to lose weight
- Emotional connection through food
- I feel people judging me as weak when they see the weight

Different perspective.
- Work with your body instead of fighting it.
- Focus on finding balance and listening to body yes and no.
- Tap on issues that block connection and sense of safety.
- Can still eat, enjoy food (Mindful Eating call on 2/10).
- Can even eat too much sometimes if we need.
- Just about smaller shifts around relationship to food and self and movement.
- Maybe it doesn’t need to be an effort. Maybe it can be natural and easy?

Our intention with the Body Vitality Workshop is to help you…

- develop an amazing relationship with your body…
- help it feel surprisingly safe, calm, and confident…
- listen to and follow its intuitive guidance…
- consciously direct its vibrational trend towards total well-being…
- and delight in the pleasures of food, movement, and touch in healthy and balanced ways.

It doesn’t matter if you’re over-, under- or at your perfect weight, hate the pains in your back, think you don’t have enough muscles, feel clumsy, or your nose is funny….

We’ll focus on developing practical body guidance, feeling safe in your body, appreciating and accepting where you are (as hard as that can be sometimes), and removing blocks to moving forward towards a more powerful, healthy, vital body. We’ll have specific calls on eating for the body’s needs… and for its pleasure! We’ll also use EFT to bring relief to pain and suffering… and bring more fluid movement to your body from your head to your toes.

In the members-only forum we’ll have ongoing discussions on each of these topics… as well as mutual support and encouragement to guide this process.

If you would like to participate in this workshop and bring increased vitality and power to your body, become a team member.

$9.95 (Audio MP3)
30-Day Money Back Guarantee