I was wondering if you could help me. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed about my weight. I don’t like going out. I have over 100 lbs to lose. My husband loves to share his humiliation about how I look. For a long time, I believed all the negative and hurtful things he said about me […]
(Free Video Presentation) Would you ask a 3-year-old what house to buy? Do you ask a 5-year-old who to date? If you have unresolved traumas from when you were 3- or 5-years-old, these frozen memories may have more impact on these adult decisions than you might think. You can find out what might be blocking you by watching this video…
Listen (07:14) or Download MP3 [Audio clip: view full post to listen] We often ask people what they feel needs to change so they can feel free… About 50% of them include weight loss, being slender or thin, in their answer. But unless you change the emotions, you can lose all the weight you want […]
I have these intense cravings for sugar and sweets, and I want to eat healthier foods. How can I change my behavior? -Linda First, if you want to reduce your sugar cravings to help with weight loss, remember that a lot of weight issues are related to safety. Cravings won’t shift unless you feel safe […]
– I hate being DEPRIVED
– RULES… and more RULES
– Must be All or NOTHING
– Mindful eating
One of the clearly missing links in any discussion or plan for weight loss is… safety. If we do not feel safe being slender, fit, and sexually more attractive… we WILL NOT. Our primitive brain will kick in and have us drop out of a successful program, binge, sabotage, ANYTHING to return to the safety of being obese. This makes total sense if one understand the role of undischarged trauma and how it affects our biology and behavior.
Criticize: Find fault, judge, denounce. Self criticism vs external. Want to feel peaceful, powerful, forgiven, acceptable. Tapping on Inner Critic. Everyone must love me so they won’t hurt me. I have to be perfect to be acceptable!