What are family rules? They are the generational “laws of the universe” as your family understood them. There may be other levels of rules, but these are the ones we consider the most insidious because they are often unconscious and powerfully impact our lives. Changing these beliefs requires making them conscious… and then using energy tapping (EFT) to release their steadfast hold on our subconscious actions.

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I was wondering if you could help me. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed about my weight. I don’t like going out. I have over 100 lbs to lose. My husband loves to share his humiliation about how I look. For a long time, I believed all the negative and hurtful things he said about me

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Listen (07:14) or Download MP3 We often ask people what they feel needs to change so they can feel free… About 50% of them include weight loss, being slender or thin, in their answer. But unless you change the emotions, you can lose all the weight you want and still be just as stuck and

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I have these intense cravings for sugar and sweets, and I want to eat healthier foods. How can I change my behavior? -Linda First, if you want to reduce your sugar cravings to help with weight loss, remember that a lot of weight issues are related to safety. Cravings won’t shift unless you feel safe

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– I hate being DEPRIVED
– RULES… and more RULES
– Must be All or NOTHING
– Mindful eating

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One of the clearly missing links in any discussion or plan for weight loss is… safety. If we do not feel safe being slender, fit, and sexually more attractive… we WILL NOT. Our primitive brain will kick in and have us drop out of a successful program, binge, sabotage, ANYTHING to return to the safety of being obese. This makes total sense if one understand the role of undischarged trauma and how it affects our biology and behavior.

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Criticize: Find fault, judge, denounce. Self criticism vs external. Want to feel peaceful, powerful, forgiven, acceptable. Tapping on Inner Critic. Everyone must love me so they won’t hurt me. I have to be perfect to be acceptable!

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I’m So Impatient with my clients, why won’t the decide? I am so frustrated with myself, I can’t be wrong and be loved. Heal, Damn it! My body’s confused.

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A lot of us have something we focus on as holding us back. Something that limits our happiness, abundance, feelings of self-worth, and connections to others. Having something big and obvious to direct most of our pain at is one way of coping. It does “protect” us from other issues.

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I need to be fixed to be ok around people… I feel clueless on how to act… I disconnect from people… I have to quit smoking to be around people… If I’m not good enough, they might leave… I need to fix my weight!

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