Cathy and I were special guests on the Love On Purpose Revolution call on April 16, 2013 which be replayed towards the end of the series. We would LOVE IT if you would add your energy and engage with us on this mission to LOVE with more grace, power, freedom, and CONFIDENCE.
As I prepared for the call, and looked at my heart’s feelings towards others, this thought kept coming to me:
If we truly want to thrive in love in a world with this much freedom, we need new Emotional Technologies to support us.
Yeah, I know that sounds pretty geeky. Here’s why I feel that way…
When people came together primarily out of survival, the structures that formed — until-death partner pair bonds, extended families (blood ties), tribal identities, church-centered spiritual communities, people-like-me business networks — served to make sure that we “took care of people like US.” There were Rules, Obligations, Commandments. If you didn’t follow etiquette or the dress code or danced the right dance to the right music, the group corrected (punished) you. If you went “too far” you were cast out, expelled, excommunicated.
Our “freedom to love” was predominantly within the boundaries of the tribe (or religious or socio-economic order). And frankly, that is easier to emotionally manage.
Today, we have freedom to love and connect and co-create… to MIX IT UP… with people across the world and of any and every belief system! What’s more, we are free to LEAVE a relationship, our family, our tribe, our church, our country. Such diversity and freedom honestly exceeds our natural emotional savvy.
That’s why so many people have started to re-integrate proven PRACTICES into their life. Meditation changes our brain and makes us more resilient. It is an ancient emotional technology. Prayer does, too. Yoga as well. These practices are healing and help with our emotional resiliency.
For me the pace of life and the dynamic nature of my connections means that I also need tools that help me respond quickly, effectively, intentionally… in the moment. That’s why I’m so in love with EFT Tapping.
The essence of tapping is that:
a) It is available at your fingertips at all times.
b) You consciously tune into your emotional state, both your feelings in the body and the thoughts in your mind (however painful or negative)… and acknowledge them rather than suppress them.
c) You give that energy a new direction… towards acceptance, confidence, or curious engagement.
d) You comfort yourself with gentle tapping of powerful spots on the body.
Amazingly, in a few minutes you can OFTEN (but not always) go from pissed at yourself, your partner, or your life to being surprisingly OKAY.
And why do I call this an emotional technology? Well, I remember when learning to drive a car that you used to have to try to “pump the brakes” when trying to stop quickly. Today, anti-lock braking systems make emergency stops vastly shorter, easier, and more CONTROLLED. Traction and stability control technologies keep us “on the road” and airbags help keep us alive if we (or someone else) causes a crash.
Emotionally… EFT Tapping can do those same things for us. It can help us feel more emotionally self-managed. It can bring us back to emotional safety and stability when we slip… and when we crash. When done with purpose and practice, EFT builds social resiliency. And social resiliency is crucial if you truly want to live a thriving life, infused with safety, freedom, and authentic expression for yourself and those you love.
So… I hope you’ll join Cathy and me in this mission… and if this speaks to your heart and soul as much as it does to ours, we’d love for you to engage more actively with us.