What I am really missing in my life right now is the feeling of belonging. Even with close friends I’ve known for years, I don’t feel like I belong anywhere or with anyone. Looking back, I can see that I have felt this way as long as I remember. Any suggestions? — Patty
We know this isn’t a good feeling… And yet it’s great that you are seeing this clearly now and can work on it. Often, we get so used to feelings we just take them for granted. Ignored pains don’t heal.
So if you can, just be with the feeling and tap. Imagine that the part of you “holding” this feeling is a scared little girl… what would you do to help her feel safer and more connected? Could she connect with you?? Inner tapping is a great way to clear this energy and help you feel closer and safer with people.
You might be surprised how many people feel the same way right now. We have Group Coaching members working through this, sharing their fears and limiting beliefs and releasing them so they can feel confident and connected.
Let’s do some tapping together. Of course feel free to change the words to fit what feels right to you!
Karate Chop: Even though I don’t feel like I belong, and I’ve felt this way as long as I can remember, I’m open to looking this feeling square in the eye instead of running away like I sometimes do.
Even though its hard to face this feeling and this belief… a part of me is convinced that I don’t belong… I choose to love myself anyway, and tap so I can find acceptance of myself… limiting belief and all.
Even though it feels so true, maybe I do belong and this is just an old belief. What if I can belong to me? What if I can love me and finally feel safe enough and acceptable enough to belong?
Top of the Head: I don’t belong anywhere.
Eyebrow: I don’t belong with anyone.
Side of the Eye: I’ve always felt this way.
Under the Eye: Even among friends.
Under the Nose: I’m afraid this is the truth.
Chin: I’m afraid I just don’t belong.
Collarbone: It makes me scared to look at this belief.
Under the Arm: What if I can’t handle the truth?
Top of the Head: But I am tired of running.
Eyebrow: I want to change this…
Side of the Eye: And to do that, I need to look at it.
Under the Eye: Maybe I don’t belong.
Under the Nose: Maybe I do.
Chin: If I don’t look, I’ll never know.
Collarbone: I choose to face this feeling…
Under the Arm: And love myself anyway.
Top of the Head: I never felt like I belong.
Eyebrow: That feels so sad and overwhelming.
Side of the Eye: Maybe I was trying to fit with people who didn’t resonate.
Under the Eye: Maybe I didn’t know where to look.
Under the Nose: I have new skills now.
Chin: I have new guidance.
Collarbone: I choose to accept myself as I am.
Under the Arm: I think that means I at least belong with me!
Top of the Head: And that feels so good. Maybe that will give me room to find others I connect with too…
Take a deep breath.
You may want to ask yourself if you are afraid of belonging, as well. Some people feel like they lose their boundaries and choice if they’re too close (which is a tappable issue as well!).
We’re holding good thoughts for you. You are welcome to join our Group Coaching Program or check out our Free Yourself Program so we can help you clear this energy pattern and find a sense of belonging and completeness.