Do the energetics that exist at the time of our conception, gestation, and birth have an effect on our emotional balance and beliefs years later? I can tell you from working with several clients over the past year that pre-birth and birth stories can represent fertile ground for tapping with EFT.
What I’ve done with clients is “make up” a story, using whatever facts are known as well as lots of conjecture, around conception, time in the womb, birth, and the early pre-verbal years. We then tap on the emotions and body sensations that arise as we tell the story. This type of work can help relieve feelings, even those as intense as “I shouldn’t exist” or “the world doesn’t want me.”
I was reading Gary Craig’s EFT website. Silvia has a number of possible EFT set-up approaches one can use to explore these issues. Here’s Silvia:on
CONCEPTION & PREGNANCY. Consider the baby that was conceived and that would grow up to become you. What were the circumstances of this? Is there anything that comes to mind for this time period, any sense, any emotions, any words or statements you were told about that have stayed with you and still cause discomfort? Example Opening Statements (please note the slight modifications in the statements):
Even though this baby should never have been born, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby.
Even though this baby was unwanted, I now deeply and profoundly love, accept and welcome this baby.
Even though this baby’s mother drank all through pregnancy, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby.
Even though it was said that this baby was born under an unlucky star, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby.
You might like to do another round, after such statements have been completed, but use the generic set up statement of:
I now deeply and completely HEAL this baby.
*Comment – If these Opening Statements cause you much distress, it might be best to do this process with another to help guide and support you.
BIRTH. Birth is always a very dramatic experience. You might remember something, you might have a feeling or sense of something that happened then, and many of us have been told many horrific things about this time, all of which is stored on some level in our multiordinate energy matrices.
Here are some example opening statements:
Even though this baby caused his/her mother so much pain and suffering, I now deeply and profoundly forgive and love this baby.
Even though this baby was born too early, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this baby.
Even though this baby nearly died, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this baby.
Following the birth statements, I would advise to always append each round with a round of:
I now deeply and profoundly heal this baby from all wounds he/she might have sustained at the time of birth.
0-6 MONTHS. This is a critical stage in the life of a child, as it makes its first experiences with The Hard. Constant caretaking, attention, love, warmth, feeding is of the essence for this child to grow up strong and confident. There are those who say that the very most basic ideas and concepts, way below the threshold of conscious awareness or of words and pictures, are formed in that time. Example Opening Statements:
Even though this baby never received enough love, I now deeply and profoundly love this baby.
Even though this baby was left alone in the dark, I now deeply and profoundly love and embrace this baby.
Even though this baby was so helpless, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept responsibility for this baby.
Even though this baby was always screaming, I now deeply and profoundly love and nourish this baby.
I would advise to append each round with the following:
I now deeply and profoundly heal this baby from the wounds he/she has sustained at that fragile time.
6 MONTHS – 2 YEARS. Entirely reliant on the caretakers, the child now begins their own explorations of the World. Their experiences during this time – and this includes toilet training – are said to set their energy exchanges with the All There Is on a most profound level. This includes basic beliefs of what can and cannot be had, what can and cannot be done, what can and cannot be learned, as well as how, what and why relationships are constructed, mostly based on the primary caretakers of that time.
Example opening statements might include:
Even though this child was not allowed to explore, I now deeply and profoundly love and encourage this child.
Even though this child was ignored, I now deeply and profoundly acknowledge and love this child.
Even though this child was totally overwhelmed by the world, I now deeply and profoundly love and take responsibility for this child.
Even though this child was pushed on way too fast, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Append as usual, any one given round with a round of:
I now heal this child, deeply and profoundly, from all the injuries it sustained during this time of life.
2 YEARS – 6 YEARS. This is the time of development of the basic sense of self – who we are, what our place is in the world. Many very unhelpful self concepts are formed during this time, which may include first contacts with organised learning which are of the essence for undertaking a great many tasks that rely on learning and change in the future. Example opening statements might include:
Even though this child was a girl, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was slow to learn, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was said to have been “a little monster”, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was abused, I now deeply and profoundly love and treasure this child.
Even though this child was different, I now deeply and profoundly love and treasure this child.
As always, append each round with the global:
I now heal all the injuries this child sustained during this time, deeply and profoundly, with my love.
AND ONWARD TO MATURITY. Of course, change and learning do not stop when we are 6 years old. It would be most valuable indeed to continue on and create your own custom made line of growth beyond age 6 and into pre-teen, then teenager stage and until you have reached a point of conclusion where you felt maturity and adult hood had been obtained.
Now the truth is that many of us, age 40, 50, 60 and beyond have never really felt as though they did attain adulthood; many of us have a horror of such a state and actively fight it for many reasons, the main one being that those who were presented to us as models of adulthood were not what we would ever want to become.
However, it is my supposition that Inner Child explorations, and more specifically, Inner Child Healing can help accomplish this.
By taking responsibility in a true adult fashion – note, a true adult fashion not as was modelled by the so called “Grown Ups” around us – for our own selves, we are both healing past wounds as well as *recreating a whole new model* of adulthood for our own past selves. This is a most profoundly healing and ecological set of energy exchanges *within our own self* that I absolutely believe needs to be accomplished FIRST and as the FIRST PRIORITY to any other endeavour. For how can you heal others if you cannot heal yourself, how can you forgive others if you cannot forgive yourself, how can you serve others if you cannot serve yourself?
It is often said that “loving the self” precedes all endeavours to love others. Loving the child you once were is an essential, if not *the only essential* component to understanding the nature of love, forgiveness and healing. I offer you these protocols for use with your self and your clients with my sincere wishes to you for deep healing and re-alignment. —Silvia Hartmann