They Picked On Me!

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Why is being picked on by others so painful? Such negative experiences early in life can leave a “permanent” mark on us... creating limiting beliefs that affect our quality of life even decades later. It's time to free yourself of their taunts and judgments NOW... using EFT.

When we are criticized while in a physically or emotionally vulnerable state, a part of our brain mis-interprets the situation and "decides":

- There must be something WRONG with me.
- I'm not good enough.
- It's my fault. I'm to blame.
- I don't fit in.
- I'm not likable.
- I'm not thin enough, pretty enough, athletic enough, smart enough (or maybe too smart).
- I'm not going to get what I want.
- I'm not safe.

If there is any area where you have not been able to move forward in your life, ask yourself: "Did someone PICK ON ME about this?" And if so, take a moment to get in touch with the intensity around that situation. If it is above a 2 on the 0-10 point scale, TAP ON IT. You can be amazed at the difference that can make in your sense of calm confidence.

If you'd like to learn more, review the outline of the call Cathy Vartuli and I recently co-created with our team members. You can purchase the audio recording for only $9.95. (Team members can access the recording free as part of their membership.)

Being picked on, bullied, tormented, or teased is an deeply painful experience. It goes against our tribal imperative to “fit in.”
- Most of us can remember a time we came home from school crying because of a hurtful thing someone said.
- For example, normal ears become “enormous” if someone decides to ridicule them in a derogatory way.
- A much loved sweater can lose it's warmth if another kid says it's ugly or silly.
- A parent's teasing, even if it's meant jokingly, can leave a lasting scar.

Some of those pains from being picked on have been around so long that we don't even notice them anymore. They have become part of our subconscious programming.

- We're so used to the heavy emotional weight, and the constraints it puts on our freedom, we never think to put it down.
- It becomes part of our self-definition.

Let's look more closely at how you were picked on and release these old energies. It's time for spring cleaning!
 
Why do people pick on others?
- Establishing a social hierarchy (animal behavior, jostling for position).
- Reinforces what are “acceptable” tribal behaviors.
- The teaser is trying to help (“I need him/her to behave differently or be different, so I will invoke shame to force a change.”).
- They feel insecure and feel better when they see others as inferior.
- They may have learned this "sense of humor" as children. It might be how they relate... even how they show love.
- They have their own writing on their walls around the particular trait they are teasing about.
- They think it will make others laugh.
 
Such actions of others have a large effect on us, we believe, because the primitive brain interprets the energy as “I'm unsafe! Change! Fit in! Don't let them throw you out of the tribe!!!!!”
 
Why are we still carrying around the beliefs that a 5 year old had about how we dress, act, play or live?
- If everyone told me I was too fat as a child, I may have the (unconscious) belief that I MUST be fat, that I can't change it, or that it's part of my identity.
- The girl with the sweater might still think she doesn't know how to dress well.
- The boy with the ears or hairy legs might be self conscious to this day.

Now is a great time to take back our power, and re-perceive our own feelings of what is right and wrong for us.

EFT Energy Tapping on...
- Isolation
- Defining self according to others
- Sadness
- Being "too sensitive"
- Shame, embarrasment
- Maybe I deserved it, I picked on others.
- More...

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