One of the most fun aspects of relationships is flirting. We can flirt with a potential partner, a friend, or someone in the grocery store.
But a lot of us are REALLY uncomfortable flirting. We think we have to look a certain way, be a certain age or a weight, or have specific skills before we can flirt. We may think that flirting is only for the beginning of a relationship, instead of a delightful way to bring some fun energy into an established connection.
If you want to create more playful banter and good feelings, watch this video as Cathy interviews Reid Mihalko about How To Be a Better Flirt, and learn how to take the pressure off and have more fun!
(www.TheIntimacyDojo.com mentioned in the video is Cathy’s relationship focused site.)
Cathy adds: I never considered myself a good flirt. Reid’s analogy of tossing the Frisbee and inviting people to play helped me a lot! And taking the pressure off of flirting (it doesn’t have to lead anywhere, it can just be a fun way of letting people play and feel cared about), made it lots easier for me!
And here is some tapping to help you get out there, brightening people’s days and putting a sparkle in your eye.
Karate Chop: Even though I never considered myself a good flirt, I would love to have more playful connection in my life.
Even though I thought you had to be a 17-year-old cheerleader to flirt, why should they have all the fun. I reclaim my right to flirt and bring delight into my life.
Even though I thought flirting had to be this heavy, intense thing, maybe I can just play and help others feel liked and engaged. I like adding sunshine to people’s days!
Top of the Head: I can’t flirt!
Eyebrow: I don’t know how.
Side of the Eye: I would feel awkward.
Under the Eye: And kind of shy.
Under the Nose: But I do like to play.
Chin: I like to help people laugh.
Collarbone: I love to add warmth to their day.
Under the Arm: I like feeling connected.
Top of the Head: What if I took the “heavy” out of flirting?
Eyebrow: What if I invited others to play?
Side of the Eye: We could all use a bit more play.
Under the Eye: And flirting is just play with appreciation.
Under the Nose: What a delightful way to raise my vibration!
Chin: What a fun way to connect.
Collarbone: I’d love to spread more joy.
Under the Arm: And nurture myself at the same time.
Top of the Head: I may be a bit awkward at first.
Eyebrow: I was awkward the first time I threw a Frisbee.
Side of the Eye: But it was still fun to try.
Under the Eye: And I got better at it!
Under the Nose: I can see who wants to play.
Chin: I choose to start flirting today.
Collarbone: I want to spread sunshine and delight.
Under the Arm: And if I teach people to play…
Top of the Head: I’ll have a lot more playmates and joy.
Take a deep breath.
Flirting doesn’t have to be this intense, “I must take you to bed” kind of thing. It can be simple appreciation and play. And it does help you send out a very different vibration to the Universe!
If you’d like to connect with more love, ease and fun, purchase your copy of Creating Connection where Rick, Reid and Cathy share new ideas and approaches for love and understanding: