Sex, Love, & Relationships – Page 8 – Thriving Now

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Love Pain

– What am I telling myself about me?
– My father’s face humiliating me, broke my heart
– Boy that liked me in first grade, they took it away
– They wanted to replace me
– They took me away from the nurse who loved me

Boundaries: Yours, Mine, and Ours

A lot of us never learned boundaries growing up. Even if we did, managing them with ease and grace is not always natural. We help you define what is yours to decide on and show you ways to stand up for that. And we delve into some of the grey areas that occur when we interact closely with someone at work or socially.

Unloved – I Am Unlovable Because…

I don’t do what they wanted me to… My weight… I’m too much… I’m not good enough… I’m defective.

It’s My Fault

They’re blaming me… Responsible for their happiness… I should have known better… Waiting for his forgiveness… He said I wasn’t a good mother.

Is It Safe To Care About Myself?

Put everyone else first… Selfish to care about myself… Better to give than receive… I can’t be abundant or I’m not a good person… Pleasure in caring for other… Do I know what my needs are?? Finding a balance.

Criticized – I Feel Criticized

Criticize: Find fault, judge, denounce. Self criticism vs external. Want to feel peaceful, powerful, forgiven, acceptable. Tapping on Inner Critic. Everyone must love me so they won’t hurt me. I have to be perfect to be acceptable!

Unsafe – It’s Not Safe To Feel Safe

If I felt safe… People might be jealous. I wouldn’t be alert enough. I will attract dangerous people or things. Something terrible will happen. I’m not allowed to feel safe, I don’t deserve it.

Impatience – I’m So Impatient

I’m So Impatient with my clients, why won’t the decide? I am so frustrated with myself, I can’t be wrong and be loved. Heal, Damn it! My body’s confused.

Loneliness – I’m Very Lonely

I don’t deserve connection… I don’t belong… They never really accepted me and that hurts… I hate to be alone!

I Am Not Wanted

I am not wanted… My needs are ignored… I want to be chased… Not wanted as a baby… I don’t want myself the way I am.