My Father Drank To Cope…


My father drank to cope. His way of coping cut me and my brothers and sister off from the best parts of him. He coped with life’s many challenges using alcohol and food and inappropriate sex and purchases and power over people. He never was unable to have an emotionally vulnerable conversation with any of us eight kids.

How Guilt and Feelings of Selfishness Can Trap You… and Your Whole Family


Guilt and shame producing phrases echo through many people’s childhood. Parents, teachers, grandparents, siblings, even complete strangers use those words, and others repeat them. Those phrases are used because they work… at least in the short run. They are great way to “cope” with and manage children. Here’s why…

Creating Warm And Wonderful Holidays This Year…


We know you’ve been working hard this year, making a difference in how you life your life, in how you relate to others. We wanted to take a minute to appreciate your effort and your intentions. You inspire us to reach deeper. We know you deserve a warm and wonderful holiday. And we hope that […]

3 Mistakes Even Smart People Make Around Their Loved Ones…


The holidays are supposed to be a magical time… right? Then why are so many of us disappointed and more lonely than ever? 3 Mistakes Even Smart People Make Around Their Loved Ones… That Leave Them Disappointed, Lonely and Isolated Around The Holidays Learn the top three mistakes people make around the holidays with their […]

Are You Ready To Transform Your Relationships?


We all have times when we feel it… the tight muscles, the clenching stomach, the sweaty palms, and the mental confusion… Oh, no, not again! When one of our relationships is “off”, whether it’s romantic, friendship, work, or family… our heart hurts, too. And our heads. It’s easy for people to feel like they aren’t […]